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I know I've seen posts on "waves' before, but I wanted to add my 2 cents worth and see what other people think.

If I receive a wave from someone who doesn't even have a photograph - what does that mean? Is that like a child knocking on my front door and than running away before I open it?

And what about intelleigent girls who put thought into their profiles - who simply click the lazy "wave" button? Are they then expecting me to do the work they couldn't be bothered to do?

I'm not an expert an internet dating but I am quickly forming the view that waves are merely for lazy time wasters.

Am I being unfair? Is there are another viewpoint out there that I am missing?

Blessings,

Ryan

I think waves could be useful for shy people, and testing the water to see if that person would be interested in communicating any further. I have looked at a few other internet sites, and some have had a wink, or a kiss, instead of a wave, how awful would that be. I noticed to my horror, one site had a section for "married people who want to flirt"...so disgusting !!
Just my 2cents worth...wow now we have 4 cents.

I've put an explanation of how I see waves in my profile so there is no confusion. I see waves an icebreaker. Not lazy by any stretch of the imagination but call me old fashioned but I would rather a guy be attracted to something in my profile enough to want to make contact himself first.

So for me a wave is a virtual replacement for a real life 'smile and a catch of the eye across the room' then the guy has the choice to either 'come over and say hi' and either reply with a wave or an email or try and catch the eye of someone else he is interested in.

That's how I see it anyway. :)

......I personally think the wave option is good. But depending on "who" you send them too!?!!!........it could be that they are definently a waiste of time. :-)

I agree with Cossie.. the "wave" button is an icebreaker... Think of it this way;

If we were in public & our eyes caught someone who seems appealing... well, I try & get eye contact & then a smile.. if they smile back then a conversation is a possibility but if they just look away then I know it's not worth further "wringles".. LOL!! Because this is the WWW a "public" site.. the "wave" is the"smile" cos we can't see face to face!!.... I've done it!!.. I read ppls profile... if it's appealing then I send a WAVE... if they wave back then I try ... take note (I try) & send a message... if I don't get a wave back then I know they're not interested & it's not meant to be & not worth increasing my chances of "rsi".. LOL!! ;-)
BUT, if I like their profile & feel the need to express my thoughts or to compliment, wishing them well, I just send them a message to let them know & wish them well.. but I don't expect anything from them...

Imagine just waving all the members???... LOL!!.. JOKES!!! :P

............hey anne:-) Sounds good....Lets just wave to everyone.... I accept waves from anyone.........lol. Tell me whats the "rsi"..???....Does that mean the "risk"...kindov all jumbled up. :-)

Hi Ryan, and everyone else, I wave to someone when I read their profile and want to say hi! I mostly don't get waves back, but the waves I do get back have turned into nice little conversations with people. I take it more as a "saying Hi" kind of thing, but I also expect that most of the time I won't get waved back.

But that's ok! It's just part of the whole "tryingtomeetsomeoneonline" thing! And Heather, I think Anne means RSI = repetitive strain injury from too much typing :P

Yeah ...same for me Georgina....although I dont wave anyone any more as I think that is up to the male....hence....no waves in at least 4 months or so and same with any new emails...take heart beaufitul ! Girl power.!

...............lol, geez Danny :-),,,,,mm, and thanks Georgina, "repetitive strain injury" would never thought of that....altho probly better than "risk" all jumbled up................an unfortunately Cossie... chances are if your going to wait for the guys to make the first move, you could be on the site a very long time; altho i know what your saying, "it would be nice".

Hi, some guys( older guys) are not slow in sending waves, but getting replies is a different matter, it is nice to get one now and again.

DARRYL, Darryl, you keep sending me waves, but you have blocked me so I am unable to respond...Glad you are on the boards, as now I can tell you this....maybe you have blocked others you are waving to ?

Cossie

Hi Cossie thanks for that, I did not realise that, I will find out the problem.

My vote: WASTE OF TIME. Too confusing. They mean everything from ''Hi' to 'Hey, I'm interested, come over here baby.' Which means that they mean nothing at all. Phah! :P
How about just saying hello and starting a conversation? I know it is a problem for people who only want a relationship, but then they are implying that they can know people well enough from a profile to decide if they are romantically interested, which is a laugh and a half!!!! It is a very silly world out there.... :D

ah giselle, words of wisdom once again ..... :-)