Discussion Boards - The Big Issues

It seems to me that there are an abundance of single men, on this site and others, who don't want children. Why is this? I've always thought that children were a blessing from God and we should desire them. I understand that these days it is possible to choose to not have something that God designed to be a natural outcome of marriage. I was just raised to value children and cherish the part that they play in a family.

I've got over the feeling that I should apologize for my desire to have children, This is, after all, the way God made me. I do wonder, though, about men who don't want to be fathers or raise Christian children. Is is fear? Selfishness? Feelings of inadequacy? Part of me wants to say, "Get over yourself", but actually I feel sorry for them. They want sex but don't want the consequences of it?... What is that???

Hi Maree, I think a lot of Christians have bought into the world's view that children are "expensive" and "bothersome"...........which is incredibly sad. As you said, the Word calls children a blessing (Ps 127:3-5), and as a Mum raising several little ones I can only say that they are the greatest treasures in my life.

For a man to reject the idea of children seems to me a sign of immaturity and selfishness, unless there is a good reason, ie infertility, genetic concerns or age. Even though I do not necessarily desire to have any more children of my own, I would welcome any children a future partner already has. Sadly, many men on here do not feel that way.

If God has placed a desire for children in your own heart, it is worth waiting for the man who shares this godly dream. May He give you the desires of your heart!

Amen!!!