It seems to me that there are an abundance of single men, on this site and others, who don't want children. Why is this? I've always thought that children were a blessing from God and we should desire them. I understand that these days it is possible to choose to not have something that God designed to be a natural outcome of marriage. I was just raised to value children and cherish the part that they play in a family.
I've got over the feeling that I should apologize for my desire to have children, This is, after all, the way God made me. I do wonder, though, about men who don't want to be fathers or raise Christian children. Is is fear? Selfishness? Feelings of inadequacy? Part of me wants to say, "Get over yourself", but actually I feel sorry for them. They want sex but don't want the consequences of it?... What is that???
Hi Maree, I think a lot of Christians have bought into the world's view that children are "expensive" and "bothersome"...........which is incredibly sad. As you said, the Word calls children a blessing (Ps 127:3-5), and as a Mum raising several little ones I can only say that they are the greatest treasures in my life.
For a man to reject the idea of children seems to me a sign of immaturity and selfishness, unless there is a good reason, ie infertility, genetic concerns or age. Even though I do not necessarily desire to have any more children of my own, I would welcome any children a future partner already has. Sadly, many men on here do not feel that way.
If God has placed a desire for children in your own heart, it is worth waiting for the man who shares this godly dream. May He give you the desires of your heart!
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