Discussion Boards - The Big Issues

Speaking from experience, I believe it is possible to forgive and work on the marriage (all things are possible with the Lord). However my own personal experience is No. My husband cheated on me and we are now divorced. I struggled for a long time about the issue of divorce. The thing for me was that I can forgive him but I do not have to be in the relationship. I have forgiven him, but to stay in the marriage is a totally different ball game.

Everyone will have their own journey and decide what is right for them (hopefully after a lot of prayer). It took me three years to divorce my husband and I know that it is what I should have done.

Amen Linda and Chris

so how do you forgive yourself ??? when all others have, God your friends and even the agreived person, there is always the issue of forgiving yourself, any pointers would be appreciated.

Hi Martin....It is a choice and a decision to forgive yourself. I had a pastor say to me when I was grieving over a bad decision. He said ok give yourself 3 days to grieve over this, then snap out of it and let it go and move forward.

It really helped me, otherwise the Devil will have a field day with your mind. Every time you find yourself dwelling on how bad you have been, reverse it into praising Jesus for the blood He shed to wash all our sin away, before long the Devil will back off, because what he meant for harm on you, caused you to praise instead.

Worth a try.

I loved what Carman sung.....When the Devil reminds you of your past, remind him of his future.

Martin, if you refuse to forgive yourself, you are making yourself bigger than God. He is the only righteous judge, and we (thankfully!!) are not! So please put Him in the rightful place in your life, and revel in his ***grace***!

Hugs!

thanks guys, I was talking to a male member in chat and I said the same to him, trouble is transfering that knowledge from head knowledge into heart and life changing knowledge.

oh and welcome back Linda how have you been ??

Hi Martin, there you have it, lots of encouragement to look forward not backwards, and not wishing to sound negative but you don't need to hit yourself over the head you can trust the church to taking care of that for you. lol

Lol David, but in all seriousness I have a great church family around me that treats me better than I could ever thought imaginable, I am very blessed to have them

Indeed you are blessed, may I ask what type of church it is as I am impressed

it is a great little church and one to watch in years to come, we are called Elevate church and we come under the AOG banner, but I would say we are just a church that loves Jesus and we aim to be like him, they have been awesome to me and I love it there, I am not sure if I am allowed to so if mods take it down I understand, but here is our website http://www.elevatechurch.org.au/index.html we are very multicultural and have people from India, Sri Lanka, Fiji, Aus, NZ, Asia. and we all love each other alot and help out no matter what. I have never experienced a church like it before